Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Behind Closed Doors

It happened yesterday behind closed doors. Yes she closed her door to do something yesteryday. She never closes her door, it only separates her from us when that happens. So when I turned around to find her door shut mmmm....
Only to find out that she had moved her nightstand out from the wall and all her jewelry and toppled off onto the floor. And why? It was all for a baby doll bottle that fell behind it, all for baby "Shmay."

Monday, April 19, 2010

An All Time Low

The Queen has sunk to an all time low. She is now dipping her Mickey "D" fries in Taco**Bell hot sauce. Black pepper was just not hot enough. I may have mentioned that she loves spicy food or "la." In Hunan, women born there are called "La Made Za's" (spelling?? doing it phonetically) or in English- Spicy Girls. The belief in Hunan is if you are hot and eat spicy food it will cause you to sweat which will cool you off. And our little "spicy girl" loves her spicy food or as she calls it "La sauce pleazzza." It started with black pepper piled on her plate and rubbing every piece of meat in it. She said in ChangNing they put it on their canteloupe. She progressed to putting pepper on her veggies, starches- mainly fries, chips and salsa, and now we have moved to la sauce, specifically Taco**bell la sauce. She can't get enough of it. She would pop of fry in then sit and wipe her dripping nose, dip a fry, eat it, wipe her nose. She just cracks us up.
I must add, she is picky about her la sauces. Tabasco** la sauce is just yucky to her, but she likes to dip her nuggets in TExAs Pete*. Eating with her is an adventure and we look forward each day to see what new surprises we encounter.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Adoption Attachment

I have been thinking and wondering alot this week, myself, about attachment. Things are going great in this household with our Queen. There are small episodes from time to time that leave me wondering just how we are in this process. I guess, in those times, I am just wanting affirmation that this is "The Dance" post at , I felt the affirmation I needed.
In the beginning it seemed we would take two steps forward and one step back. But now at 4 months, things on a day to day basis seem pretty normal. She is not a morning person much like my oldest child. She has certain foods she likes and certain ones she dislikes. She likes to voice her opinion more and more each day ( a little too much some days, but don't we all). She has her favorite tv shows, -**iCArL*y. And she loves nail polish more than anything.
But then came the event this week. The moment the had me questioning. The day her grandparents left afer meeting them for the first time. As I put her to bed that night she began to cry. Out of the blue crying. Nothing leading up to it crying. As I held her and asked her why, she shrugged "I don't know." But what I believe was she didn't know the English words to express how she was feeling. I really believe it was the blues, her grandparents left after spending the weekend with them. But what I was feeling was: is she missing ChangNing? Is she feeling abandoned? Does she think others will leave? Is she feeling insecure? Am I? So I did what any mother would do for her daughter that was crying... I crawled in bed and held her while she cried and then laughed and then went to sleep.
But the best part of parenting an adopted older child is the hugs, and an always ready "I love you," pats on the bottom as she walks by, and the fact that she will hold my on long walks. And she likes it!

Happy*Days*R Here Again

This face says it all, Happy Days are here!!!!

It has been a tiring week since spring break. The kids had tough time getting into the groove especially the queen. We had lots of ball games and practices this week which didn't allow for time to catch up on sleep. And the weekend ddin't allow for sleep time either. We had a our yearly church party and it was a blast. "Happy Days R Here Again!"

I am not sure what the queen was thinking when we dressed her up, she seemed a bit confused but once I put her time with lipstick on she was all smiles. As you can see!

And here is the whole gang on stage. What you can't see in this picture is when our family performed a skit to Yakety **Yak and The Locomotion. You also are missing out on ba'ba as Dick*Clark*, the boys as thugs from the 50's complete with candy cigarettes and the box rolled up in their sleeve, our monkey as "Malibu*Ken", and the queen and her father danced during intermission. They did the whole swinging in the air thing and twirling round and round.

And that left the queen in love...

During our trip home from church on Sunday the queen decided that she and her ba'ba were going to dance when they got home. Only she took it more serious than he did. He came home, slipped into some old clothes, and layed down for a nap. In the meantime, the queen went to change out of her Sunday clothes and I tried to put her into some play clothes. Only she had other ideas. She wanted to put on another "pretty pretty dress" for ba'ba and her to dance in. I managed to convince her to put on leggings and a t-shirt and finally a dress-up dress.

Once she was dressed she went to fetch her ba'ba only to find him dressed in his napping clothes. Was The Queen ever disappointed. (dad not wanting to dance til his nap had to be convinced he should give it up and dress up and dance so that he could finally get to his nap). So being the great dad that he is he dressed up and went to dance with his little girl. Thing SVC and his cinderella song.

And while someone was waiting for her ba'ba to change clothes she got so excited that she tried standing on her head. Said she learned this in ChangNing. And apparently she did. Good thing she had on those leggings.

And here is the queen dancing with her baba to Yakety Yak**. They had a ball. He swung her around and everything. She was happy.

They are still twisting and turning. And don't they look nice in their dancing finest.

Happy Days are here for the Queen.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Take Two

It has happened again. The queen has lost another tooth, her second one total. She hadn't lost any teeth prior to coming to us, so we have had the pleasure of this experience. We missed so many of her first in her life: her first steps, crawling, her first words (although we get the pleasure of her first English words). But have gotten so many new first: her first trip to the beach, to McDonalds, to school, and now her first teeth. Her daddy got to pull the first one, but this time The Queen pulled it herself. She is an amazing brave girl. We are still amazed at how brave she is. She has left the only life she ever knew, she left the safety of a gated institute and ventured out into this world to so many new sights and adventures and she really goes with the flow. Not that she is not timid and hangs close to us when experiencing something new, but she still tries anything we ask her to. Look at that sweet smile and the gaps at the bottom.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

It's A Rap

The Queen with her Mimi and Papa on Sunday in their Sunday finest!

The Queen dressed and ready for a wedding her in yellow dress. Isn't she a cutie?

And here is that gorgeous smile she flashes and melts everyone.

We are wrapping up the weekend and a long week of spring break. It ends with the departure of grandparents on Monday morning and everyone back to school. It will be a rough morning.

I must say we have had a great weekend but quite busy. It involved 1 baseball practice, 2 soccer games, and a wedding to attend. Plus entertaining grandparents, which wasn't hard. The Queen herself could do that all on her own with just her animation and her ability to tell tales (and currently we are not sure if they are true or not and that is why she has been dubbed "The Queen" for drama queen- not really, the meaning has evolved into that since she has come to us).

We are ending our weekend with a new program on the Nick channel and then we have to smoothly remove her from the tv so that she doesn't catch on that her FAVORITE show comes next- at her bed time. If you don't know her favorite show , it is *****iCArley. We like the show, but to view it with her is hilarious. She goes beserk when it goes to commercial and accuses us of changing the channel. We spend our 30 min. convincing her that it is in commercials. Then when the show finally goes off, she then sits and smiles "commercial." And then we have to break her heart and tell her no, it is off. That is life with an English Language Learner.
And more life episodes with our ELL. This weekend the queen and I went to a beautiful wedding at the beach. Following the wedding was a reception overlooking the beach. It was very lovely and right up the queens alley, getting all dolled up along with everyone else. She and I sat at one of the round tables, and I really didn't know anyone at the wedding much so I knew no one to sit with. But a family akin to the bride sat down with us. The Queen notices all details, especially grooming details like hair, nails, and jewelry of men and women alike. The family that sat down with us had 2 grown sons with long hair, well one with long hair and one with longer hair. Immediately she started pointing to the young men and jabbering about their hair. But they were really cool, I explained her being new here in the US and her confusion about what men and women wear. So they were really sweet and the one with longer hair swung his ponytail around for her to see it. So once we cleared it up that it is ok for men to have pierced ears and long hair, the bride and groom entered the reception with a man playing the bagpipes and wearing a kilt leading the way. And what detail did the queen notice in all of this? You guessed it, "he's wearing a skirt!" You can imagine the conversation that followed...
And at the wedding she turned right in the middle of the service and in a very loud voice, announced, "BIG Painting!" Shhhhhh
And during the reception, once she was ready for them to cut the cake, she proceeded very loudly, the Happy Birthday Song. I guess she assumed that would inspire someone to cut and serve the cake. We waited and we were about to leave but took a pit stop first and when we passed by the reception area, what was happening, they were serving cake! Yup it was time and she had to go back in and have cake before we could leave. Too funny.
I guess you can tell we find her quite funny.

Friday, April 9, 2010

The Princess****& The Pea*****

The Queen gets a visit from the royal paternal grandparents. She has never had grandparents in her whole 5 1/2 years existence. What is amazing is her total understanding of grandparents. She understands they are special family members, that they are to be treated with respect and that we love them and show affection to them. She has asked many weeks if they were coming and finally it happened, she got to meet them on Thursday the 8th. She ran right out to the car as they pullled up and met mimi at the car, hugged her and then went around to papa's side and hugged him. She is very smitten with them and makes her rounds to hug them when it is bed time and she does this without our prompting. It is amazing to us. God really has a way of working things out and we are grateful.

Here is the empty space in her mouth where the queen lost her first loose tooth. Yeah I know, it doesn't look to empty does it. When we finally discovered there was a loose tooth, really two loose teeth, the new one was already popping through behind it. We weren't sure what to do and didn't want to scare her because of the lanuguage barrier thing we have going on. Since I hate pulling teeth, my plan was to have our pediatric dentist just pull it at a baseball game one day. His son is on big brother's team. Hey why not, it wouildn't be considered an office visit then would it. Just kidding, not really. I hate pulling teeth and refuse to do it. And she did too and that is why her baba pulled it tonight. This is the first of our children that he has actually been allowed to pull a tooth. And he felt blessed that she trust us that much.
And here is The Queen placing her first lost tooth under her pillow. Thus the story of the "Princess and The Pea". Once the tooth was in place and she was going through the nightly goodnight ritual, the sensitive royal highness kept saying "owie". That gigantic boulder, I mean tooth, under her pillow was hurting her. It was all I could do to contain my laughter. She finally decided to head off to sweet dreams once I moved that tooth to the edge of her pillow. She is excited to wake up and hopefully find some money under her pillow. She wants to shop.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Happy 4 Months!!! Happy Easter (belated)!!!!

Happy 4 Months!!!!! Today marks four months with The Queen. It is hard to believe that she has only been with us four months. She has blended in so well that it is hard to believe she hasn't been with us her whole life. As you can see life is good for her and for us. She is napping on her daddy one Sunday afternoon. She is at peace with her new life. She talks about her former home but when you ask where she wants to be, it is here.

Here is the pre-Easter activity. The Queen loves girly things and especially her nails done. Mommy went to get a mani-pedi (a birthday gift) and The Queen had to go too. The ladies there were so sweet and so intrigued by her that one took it upon herself to do her nails special without any notice. She painted them pink with polka-dots and then glitter atop all that. Boy was she thrilled and the folks working there loved seeing her joy. I think it was because they were also Asian and really intrigued by her story and loved her personality. Unfortunately they didn't last til Easter, it was a week away. As you can see my finger polish there. It didn't last either.

Egg hunt #1. Here is her egg hunt at school. You can see her anxiously awaiting what was to come. Only she didn't understand all the excitement. But she is easy going and goes along with whatever. The other kids were excited so she knew it was a special day, and mommy was at school. That alone was special. The kids had an egg hunt and then a party picnic style. She had a blast and ate lots of sweets. In China, sweets are not a big thing, but she has sacrificed herself and adjusted wonderfully to eating sweets.

Then the kids on Easter morning. The Queen has experienced her first Easter Bunny visit. She wasn't sure what to think but she jumped in quicker this time than on Christmas morning. (she is not a morning person at all) But it is apparent that she has blended in with us quickly and trust us totally.

Here is the queen intently listening to the Easter story. I know she seems really intent on listening, but I can assure it is because her Baba is telling it. This was her first Easter ever. And she has noticed the "cross" but she doesn't get it or understand it all. But that is ok, because I know once day her eyes will be opened to the truth.

(and on a side note, notice how long the hair has gotten. that is totally important to her to have long hair, it is getting there.)

Here is the queen at her 3rd egg hunt. By this time she is a pro. But the really sweet thing about her is she is not selfish at all. At this age kids can be quite self centered and worry about not getting enough eggs etc. ( I know, I have lived through 2 boys already.) But not the queen. She has such a sweet disposition and is always ready to share. And egg hunting was no exception. She would gather eggs but was not in a hurry to race another child to them at all. And as she leaned over to get an egg one in her basket would fall out, she was fine with that til her brother pointed out that she had just lost about 8 eggs at once so then she took the time to pick them up. But she was all about opening the eggs and getting out the goodies inside. She has discovered her favorites and least favorites. Jellybeans, no. Chocolate, yes, recall the school lunch incident. Gum, yes. Skittles, yes. M&M, yes. As you can see her "No " list is rather small.

And this is the end of our Easter weekend. All snuggled up with her brother. Egg hunting is fun but tiring for a queen.


Yes I know it looks like we have been missing in action but we are here and doing well. Just life has been busy. The queen has had a wonderful first Easter. She had 3 egg hunts, dyed eggs with her Nay Nay, and got an Easter basket on Sunday. I know she thinks we give candy or gifts constantly, no wonder she loves it here. I will post pictures later.
I had spring break last week so I was able to just be a mom and go to their school for parties and egg hunts and all the works. It was fun.
This week they have spring break and are with my mom, and this weekend the other grandparents come. This will be their first time meeting the Queen. They have had some health issues and LOTS of snow which postponed their visit until now. Yay for spring, yay for sunny weather. Boo for pollin.
I have a slew of pictures with our timeline since I last posted and will get to it this weekend when I have some time.
I just wanted to let you know we were alive and well on the East coast.

About Me

I am a pastor's wife and the mother of 3 active children. Two boys and a daughter from China. We live on the East Coast and enjoy the beach.