Sunday, June 13, 2010

So Much Has Happened...

Celebrating her brothers birthday at the bowling alley and showing her funny
face instead of her pretty smile. The smile that cracks us up.

Here's the funny face at the restaurant.

The Queen showing off her bowling abilities. She is quite good at it.

And her funny face with her baba in the shot.

The Queen showing off her swimming abilities.
So much has happened in the last week that I have just uploaded some images in no set order and just going to say it all at once.
First The Queen went swimming last weekend and this weekend and after only 2 trips to a pool she has learned to swim. She really amazes. In Changsha we took her to the indoor hotel pool, only to watch the boy swim. However, she didn't know we were only going to watch and when she saw her brothers jump right into the pool she booked it the other way. She dashed out of there so fast I almost didn't make it in time before she reached the elevators. She was not afraid of baths though. Then later that week we went to the local park and she freaked out when went to walk across a small bridge. So I had the guide explain to her that we would never put her in harms way around water or make her do something she wouldn't want to do. I have no idea what the guide said to her but se has never been scared since and has trusted us totally. That day when we crossed the next bridge she held my hand and acted totally unafraid. But when we took her to a pool, well we didn't know what to expect. We put her in one of those bathing suits that has floats in the waist line. We also put on her arm band swimmies. She was good to go. Within 5 minutes of hitting the pool, she was climbing out and jumping into our arms. Then this weekend she took off in the pool kicking her feet and scooping her hands. She swam the whole length of the pool with no problem. She is still skiddish, but that is expected, but her trust in us amazing. I think what it will take is being in a pool consistently and she will get this swimming thing.
We also celebrated my youngest son's birthday, her older brother. First we went to the bowling alley and bowled then we went to his favorite restaurant - Red*Robin. And opened presents there. As you can see her the shots above, she has become quite the character with her funny faces. This funny face is our favorite and it cracks us up. So she likes to do that one for us. I, of course, was not wanting it in ALL of our shots, lol. But I have to say she was a really good sport about his birthday. She has been dying for her birthday to come for months now. She has never celebrated her birthday in China. She has witness her other friends in the orphanage celebrate their birthdays and have cake and presents but she has not because the orphanage doesn't do that. The only way you can have a party is if your adoptive family sends you a cake and present. So The Queen has never had a party or cake of her own. When she finally learned some English she started asking for her birthday so I showed her on our AWAA calendar the month that her birthday is in. After that she has carried that calendar around under her arm and pointing to that month and confirms with me again that that is her birthday. She has asked for a cell phone, a barbie, polish and lip gloss, and dress up clothes. Her request are not too hard all but the cell phone, she wants a REAL one. She is really very sweet about it all, and she was very sweet to her brother about his birthday so we are looking forward to celebrating her birthday too next month.
And lastly we had our 6 month post placement yesterday. It all went very well. I had warned the Queen prior to our appointment that someone was coming to see us and they were coming to make sure everything was going well since she came to live with us. The Queen slipped back into the very shy mode that we saw in China, but I just attributed it to a stranger being in our home. But then something happened today... The Queen went out into the den to see her brother. She never came back so I thought she was hanging with him. But a few minutes later he hollered for me to come, something was wrong, he thought she was hurt because she was crying but he didn't know for sure what was wrong. When I got there she had big tears running down her face, just sitting in the floor crying. So I scooped her into my lap and asked what was wrong. She had just tripped on the door frame and was really ok. But what got me was her silent tears streaming down, like when we first got her. So I held her and she got better. But what struck me was her relaps of behavior. And then after we parents talked we realized the social worker visit may have brought this on. So I talked with her and asked if she was afraid that the woman was going to take her back to China and she lowered her head and shook it "yes." So that was what brought on her relaps. She was afraid the woman was taking her away from us. And she said she didn't want to go. So I assured her that she would never go back to China unless mama, baba took her. Then she said, "mama, baba's heart hurt." "Yes my heart would hurt." And then she said, "mama call police and they shoot." "Yes if someone took you from us we would call the police." And now we have a little girl back. Squealing to the top of her lungs through the house antagonizing her brothers, our house is back to normal.

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I am a pastor's wife and the mother of 3 active children. Two boys and a daughter from China. We live on the East Coast and enjoy the beach.